In the research with on-again/off-again couples, dating experiences during “off” periods was one of the more common reasons people gave for wanting to give their ex another try.It seems that after people break up, unrewarding dating experiences can make them feel like their other dating options aren’t as good as they thought, making their exes more appealing by comparison.Are you questioning whether your relationship is right for you? I'm sorry that you went through that, but your bitterness may need a re-think.We are conducting a new online study about how people decide whether or not to end a relationship. She told me she slept with a guy (which ended my pursuit of her) and she had a rebound relationship with the guy for 6 months. She said she "missed me." We've been married for over 20 years. If she already strayed once without a second thought, you will always be "preparing" for a second disappointment as long as you hold on to that bad memory.
Basically, our emotional and attachment needs are hydraulic: The more we rely on one individual to meet these needs (e.g., an ex-partner), the less we tend to rely on another individual to meet these same needs (e.g., a new partner). It really depends on whether the rebound relationship is better than the relationship that was left behind.If you're the ex in this situation, what does all this mean for you?Outside of trying to improve on your own relationship with your ex, all you can really do is wait and see—but do so patiently.If you are thinking about ending your dating relationship, please consider participating! I was in the same social circles as her and often bumped into them. You owe it to yourself to cut it loose for your own well being.Not that this matters anymore for u mate, just for others reading.